It’s early morning. I’ve fed the cats. I tell the writing part of my brain to get ready for a writing session. What inspires me this morning? Let’s see. I mean exactly that: let’s see. I am now looking around me. What do I see?
I see a dust coating on the furniture. An unmade bed with sheets that need to be stripped and washed. An un-vacuumed carpet. The vacuum cleaner standing in a corner of the room, collecting its own coating of dust.
You get the picture.
Self-acceptance: No perfectionism here
This article focuses on life lessons I’ve learned. My lessons may be different from yours. I assure you they don’t promote perfectionism. In fact, striving for perfection is one of the anxiety-causing habits we have to drop as we gain self-awareness as adults.
One of the best lessons from my self-awareness is self-acceptance of who I really am: with my disorganized house, loose and comfortable clothes at all times, plus all the other quirks that are me.
Once I realized I was never going to measure up to the rigid rules that were drummed into me while I was growing up, it was easier to leave those standards in the past. Isn’t it amazing how long many of us carry those impossible rules through our adult lives?
Self-acceptance allows you to love the true version of yourself, the real you. You, when you first wake up, before you don your social self, with your self-designed armor to meet your world. Unshaven (if that applies), uncombed (if that applies), naked in front of the world (and that applies to all of us because I’m not talking about clothing).
Self-confidence: Some of us hide our anxiety with distractions
I regret my years of hiding the real me behind makeup and shallow smiles, with always-styled hair, perfectly-pressed clothes, perched on pointed-toe stiletto-heel shoes.
All of that was to distract from the anxiety-ridden woman who was afraid every day that people would discover she was not as smart as she was supposed to be, not as — not as what? Fill in the word here that you’re afraid applies to you.
Every culture has its own ideas of proper behavior. I realize I’m a member of a soft, spoiled culture that is rightly disdained by many others. But no matter the culture that surrounds us, we must be true to who we are.
Inspiration: Everyone else is imperfect too
That brings me back to my subject, which is, in plainest terms, when we accept ourselves as the perfectly imperfect humans that we are, we can then accept others, imperfect as they are too.
The greatest goal of this self-awareness and self-acceptance is also its greatest gift. With self-acceptance comes a greater capacity for, acceptance of, and empathy for others.
When I see empathy spreading, I feel my heart expanding. It inspires me. And when I feel inspired, I want to express myself. I want to write.
Some say self-love leads to self-absorption. At times that is true. But for most people, I feel the time and effort we give toward learning who we are at our core level gives us insight. Insight is often necessary for wise decisions. It’s also helpful for consistently good writing.
Experience has taught me self-acceptance, self-confidence, and inspiration
So, how do these 3 facets of self-improvement specifically inspire me? And why am I suggesting them to you?
Experience has taught me I become more inspired to write and to do many of the things I enjoy when my self-confidence is high. Confidence in my abilities gives me the motivation to start projects and then see them through.
Self-confidence comes from self-acceptance. I couldn’t accept imperfect, quirky me until I gained knowledge of myself through life experiences.
Self-acceptance allows us to love our real selves. It frees us to live our lives more fully.
With this acceptance I’ve acquired from experience and lessons life has taught me, I’m now confident I can succeed in my work and my life.
I wish you self-acceptance, confidence, and inspiration too.
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